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And the grief goes on
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sadI remember telling Liz at least one time that I looked to her as a role model for parenting. She scoffed at this idea, telling me that she was just making it up as she went along. Maybe she was making it up, but she was really good at it. I can't say I always agreed with her choices, but who always agrees? Even when she was sick, she passed on important lessons to her girls and found ways to be close with them. I remember one time when one of the girls intentionally hurt the other and Liz's response was "The worst thing you can do is hurt your sister." When the girls went through a labeling phase some time later, the older one had made a sign that said that and taped it to a dresser drawer. Maybe it was a harsh statement, but it sunk in and those girls are generally loving and good to each other.
While I nurse, I often wonder how Liz came up with her ideas or how her daughters turned out the way they have so far. What did she do to minimize sibling rivalry? What did she say or do to encourage teamwork? When I enforce a limit with Caleb, I wonder whether Liz would have made the same limit or whether she would have ignored that particular battle. I even hear myself asking, "Hey Liz, when R did XYZ, what did you do?" And then I remind myself that I won't hear an answer, not even a scoffing one.
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